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I'm feeling similar Mike except for the dwindling libido. Mine is still raging but the incompatible females abound. You certainly have a way with words.

I also found myself alone in my 50's and have taken the last two years to figure out my future. The best thing I have found is to not "look" for anything and it will find you. Concentrate on yourself, family, girlfriends, activities and what you want will come. I have always been a one-man woman and need to resolve my feelings for my ex of 36 years before I could possible put myself on the romance seen. Good luck and remember put yourself first!

I know exactly (more or less) what I am looking for and yes I am actively searching. However, as so many people have said, it doesn't seem to matter where you live, the pickin's are slim. One of the greatest difficulties I have is that I look and feel significantly younger than my almost 42 years. However, so far I'm finding that in order to meet a man in my area of any maturity and dignity I'll have to start trolling the senior living facilities....not something I'm interested in doing thank you very much. I've gone on a number of dates with men well into their 40's who behave like hormonal frat boys. At the same time, I just ended a relationship this Spring with a 75 year old trapped in a 40 year old body, who's idea of excitement was ordering a different burger off the Red Robin menu. Ugh! So to answer your questions, yes, I'm hopeful, yes, I know what I want, yes I'm looking...but no, I'm not entirely convinced I will find it. :(

"Paradise Regained," even the name you've chosen sounds like someone who is positive, fun loving and capable of achieving happiness with or without a partner. I think I might like to have a companion to share my life with AND I love the quiet solitude, peace and tranquility I've found being on my own. Yes, I believe, there is happiness to be found either way:)

GOOD MORNING EVERYONE!!!

I have a rough idea who Im looking for. I have standards no matter how low some people think they may be...hehe.

I will say yes, I am looking. Im activly contacting ladies on-line with hopes "something will click" between one and myself. I keep an eye out when Im out and about and try not to miss any opertunities in my life.

Id like to find someone to spend time with, be intimate with, and enjoy grown up talk with...etc..

In many ways it is like job hunting. If youve ever been out of work and looking for a decent job its horribly frustrating. You keep having interviews that you think go well, yet they dont call you back. Keep filling out the paper work and turning it in, doing everything you think your supposed to do yet, no one calls.

I find when it gets too frustrating I have to step back, spend time focused on something else. Fall back and punt until Im ready to pick myself up and try again. Cant always take that time with a job search when your out of work.

This search is similar. Biggest advantage is, Im not desperate and out of work. I dont have to settle for the first smile that comes along. I have a good idea what I DO want and I dont intend to settle for less. and although I could survive living in a box under a bridge if I was out of work, I can also survive on my own.

My quest shall continue.

Be well,

Pat

I will turn 40 in november.

Just around the corner.

I left my husband approx. 9 months ago after 7 years.

Wish I had left him sooner.

Great guy but too many issues and frankly I figured, I much rather be by my self and not have anyone to argue with.

I have teenagers so I'm never alone.

At some point I will want to commit again but no time soon. I have amazing friends and family and a little boy toy on the side.

Perfect! He's a little more than half my age and I love it.

He's at his peak and so am I.

I would never commit to him but so far the rides been great.

No pun intended!

I'm happy with haveing great sex once in a while with no strings attached.

I'm not sure I'm actively looking anymore. I go the the websites and get out a little more. I guess I'm just hoping that God drops what I need on me some day....... It usually seems to happen when you least expect it.